From the article: Does My Child Love the Babysitter More Than Me?
Are you a working mom worried that your child loves the babysitter more than you? Share the stories that make you think your child loves the babysitter more -- and read other moms' tales of rejection and babysitter love. Share Your Story
Give time to your babies
- I'm the nanny, and is true, looks like the baby hates her mom, but I can see why. When she comes she is always in a hurry. I have to do this, and that and go here and there, but never put her baby first. As the nanny I never do things in my house unless she is sleeping. I play with her, take her to the park, cook and feed her with all my love. I wish her mom could see the sweet little thing she is blessed to have.
- —Guest Tonita G.
More affection to in-law
- I have some similar problem. I live with my mother-in-law so she helps me with my 9 months old son. I go to school and have part-time job. This makes it very difficult for me to spend time with him. Lately when I go home he will come to me for 5 min and then go back to her. I do not know how to solve this. While I am home I tried my best to spend time with him, but it seems he still more attached to her than me. This is driving me crazy. Please give some advice.
- —Guest Tina
Sharing My Baby
- I have a 22 month old daughter. For 7 months now I have been working almost full time and going to school, so one of my best friends watches her. At first it was hard to see how much my daughter loved her babysitter, but now I'm grateful for the bond they have; I know my child feels safe and comfortable. I'm still #1 :) My daughter calls me Momma, and my friend is Momma Jessie. She never confuses our names, and I never worry. :)
- —Guest SnowAngel
Twins,Work, and School
- I have one year old twins boy and girl. While I am at work my sister-in-law watches them and after I come home they get excited but then run back to her or my husband. Sometimes they would rather have her hold them or they run to her or my husband. I don't beg it. When I pick my daughter up to hold her she cries and reaches for one of them. I feel as if they think she is the mom. I also go to school so it is not always easy spending a lot of time with them. I am heart broken. How do I deal with this.
- —Guest Marie
Nothing wrong with boding with babysitte
- My two older sons bonded very closely with their baby sitters. I did not feel upset at all. They were both lovely girls. And at the end of the day, it was Mom they ran to when they needed a hug or got a scrape. Dina (www.travelinghorde.com)
- —Guest Dina
He loved the babysitter more
- Years ago, I dated a man whose mother didn't work, but she was independently wealthy, and she had a live-in nanny to raise him while she and her husband vacationed frequently. I was in my twenties when I dated this man, but he always spoke of his nanny in glowing terms. Finally, after I met his mother, he insisted that I meet his nanny as well. Until the day she died, his nanny was his first love.
- —Linda.longisland
I try to take it in stride
- My son often calls me by his caregiver's name! He's 4 now so I can tell in other ways that he and I have a close bond. So I try to laugh it off when I'm being called "Miss Ruth" or "Miss Mommy."
- —Guest elena
Better Listener and Communicator
- I was not jealous of my daughter's babysitter. But, I was embarrassed to discover one day that our high school aged sitter could communicate with my 2 yr. old daughter when I couldn't. I didn't always understand what my daughter was saying. I thought she was just talking baby gibberish... but she was actually putting grownup words together, but speaking them very quickly. The sitter understood the words, but I often didn't have a clue. My daughter is 31 years old now and she still talks fast. I still ask her to slow down sometimes when she is speaking to me. I'll never be able to listen as fast as she talks.
- —Guest lila
First Word
- My son's first word was his babysitter's name. At the time, I was crushed! Fast forward fifteen years and I can see that I have consistently been his number one gal.
- —DrBBolen
